Workshop

I’ve spent a decade on my body positive journey– from debilitating self hatred to fat liberation and radical self love, and though not all paths are linear or similar, I wake up every day from the other side of body shame, and it has been life changing– The joy! The freedom!

 

I want to share with you what I’ve learned from my own experience as a fat person in the public eye, as well as readings, excerpts, and studies from the work of activists and scholars that profoundly affected me and my body positive journey.

 

You deserve to wake up every morning, say you’re an absolute babe, and believe it.

37 comments on “Workshop

  • Brianna Ray says:

    Thank you. That’s really all I have to say. After being hospitalized four times, I was diagnosed as rapid-cycling bipolar at 17 and the first thing that popped in my head was my friend singing Secrets. Knowing how open you’ve been about your experiences really keeps me from bottling everything up, which I’ve never wanted. After crying while listening to Secrets about a billion times, I was able to get up and keep going. So thank you.

  • Ed says:

    You are an amazing artist. And I love how you tell your story’s in song and spoken words. It is so heart moving. I’m sorry to say I’m not gay but you don’t have to be to hear your message it’s load and clear. Love is love it can not be told any deferent. How do you tell you sole who to love or who not to love. True love is two soles becomeing one that is true love. Don’t mater on sex , color , religion , body type.

  • Amanda Morris says:

    As someone also grew up being molested by someone in the home, and also growing up in a Pentecostal environment..though I’m not sure if there other types of abuse in your home..there were in mine, physical and mental! I watched my Mom get beat everyday and I also became a victim!! I just wanted to say a HUGE Thank You for all of your words, and thoughts through your music!! You are definitely an inspiration to many young girls as well as us older ones!!! Keep doing what you do and Let’s get Fucked up!! Hahaha

  • maan palmaria says:

    keep it up u inspired me and motivate of
    my living .

  • Mike Israels says:

    Mary

    Have heard your song Secret a couple times, but really just sat in my car and listened to all the lyrics…the words are amazing, and so accurate…just about brought tears to my eyes.

    I hope this song helps educate the world.

    My daughter left for college at 18, 1 1/2 years ago now, and by January of this year I received a call from her school that they were taking her to an inpatient hospital because they were concerned about her safety. At that time she was diagnosed with bi-polar among some other things, and your song describes her to a T.

    She has been inpatient 4 times this year, has numerous scars, which seem to be getting more visible and is currently at her 2nd visit at Timberline Knolls for residential treatment.

    It is a long tough battle, especially for her, but for our family as well. At first we wanted to support her and in part kept the issue a secret from some, but as time has gone on we are learning more and more that healing works better when we are not hiding it. We weren’t ashamed of our daughter, but thought that keeping it private would shield her from society.

    Keep up the great lyrics, society is still tuff on people with these struggles.

  • Emmerson says:

    For a project in speech class, we were required to pick a song that had significant meaning to us. I quickly chose Secrets, because I loved the meaning of the song. In the speech, we needed to research the artist, and that’s what led me to this page. Your story is so inspirational! Thanks for just being amazing, and keep up the awesome work! (:

  • Students from places says:

    Mary Lambert is bae. I relate to her so much, she is my effing idol.

  • Dear Mary Lambert-
    Words of thanks seem pretty pale,but I am not quite sure what else to do.
    I am the mom of two girls with bipolar disorder, so i get to view from the outside what incredible challenges they deal with daily.
    Your generosity in sharing your “secrets ” is more helpful than I can describe .
    My girls both have the creative gifts that often accompany their struggles-one a poet, one a musician, singer/songwriter. They (and I) fell first for your voice-before knowing anything else about you.
    We are going to try to get tickets to see you tomorrow night in Denver. You have touched and encouraged us!!
    Nancy for Codi and Alyssa

  • Edanne says:

    Dear Mary,

    Your work touches me personally in many ways and I was deeply grateful to see you perform in Omaha recently. I am a mom and my oldest son is gay and dabbling in drag. He is confident in who he is and I am deeply proud. I am a teacher who is devoted to creating safety and belonging for all of my students. Along with a friend and colleague we established iBelong (hoping Apple doesn;t sue….) to really build just that idea-you are enough as you are! And I love to write and find your words inspiring.
    My girlfriend and I absolutely loved your show and I am writing to say thank you and invite you to visit our town, my high school, or an Open Mic night. We host Open Mic the first Friday of every month. I know you are incredibly busy and enjoying your deserved success, but I know it would mean the world to my kids to hear you, in person, read your work or sing. You can stay in my home and I will cook dinner for you and your band! Seriously…home cooked food-whatever you want to have. 🙂
    So, we are in Creston, Iowa and you are welcome to come hang out with us any time. I would be eternally grateful!
    All my best to you,
    Edanne
    PS-Thanks for posting the hotdog toaster-my girl loves those types of gadgets so I am ordering one for Christmas! 🙂

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  • Steven Nagy says:

    There is nothing wrong with u mary you look beautiful to me love the voice and your eyes

  • robert schultz says:

    Good going….good songs….do what makes you happy,and don’t settle for less then you want. Sorry you went through so many troubles, that can’t be changed….but….it never has to happen again…hard knocks is not a happy school to go to, but you survived…and know more.
    Best of luck to you!

  • Angela D says:

    Hey Mary,

    Just read your bio page (also a James Taylor fan) – can I just say though that with the blue / white zig zag patterm the text is quite difficult to read

    Angela

  • PRISCILLA ALLI says:

    im doing a broucher on mary lambert she inspired me

  • Nancy says:

    I just simply would love to have lunch with you. .You’re beautiful and your voice sends chills to my soul
    .

  • Hello Mary

    Just heard a song on the radio and Googled to find out ‘who was that voice’. It was the song ‘I don’t care if the whole world knows…”

    Love the song and didn’t know anything about you till I read your bio. Congrats on your success!

  • Elizabeth says:

    Hi Mary,
    I just wanted to say that I thinks it’s amazing that your dreams came true and that you still get to be yourself everyday! Keep up the good work 🙂

  • Nikki Lee says:

    Hi Mary,
    I just want to say thank you for the contribution you make to contemporary culture. You are one of a kind.
    I love your courage and authenticity.

  • Ricki Brown says:

    Hey i love you Mary, Same Love i love that song. Ever Sense i heard it i was addicted to it. I listen to it almost everyday and no matter what mood im in it always helps me…the part i like is my love my love my love she keeps me warm, It’s the same hate that’s caused wars from religion
    Gender to skin color, the complexion of your pigment
    The same fight that led people to walk outs and sit ins
    It’s human rights for everybody, there is no difference!
    Live on and be yourself, and When everyone else is more comfortable remaining voiceless
    Rather than fighting for humans that have had their rights stolen
    I might not be the same, but that’s not important
    No freedom ’til we’re equal, damn right I support it. That song is awesome!!!! 🙂

  • Mary reiber-murray says:

    I just wanted to say that I really enjoy your music I’m a mom and grandmother yes I’m straight but your songs really hit home I’m very happy to see a real person wgo not afraid of the way they look their tattoos their weight
    I really wish I would have pursued my dreams of singing when I was younget n not so big
    I just want to say thank you for being REAL!!!

  • Lilo says:

    SHE’S BEAUTIFUL, HER SOUL IS FUCKING BEAUTIFUL! :’)

  • Hello,

    I would like to know how much it would cost to book Mary Lambert for a feature on a track I am working on with up & coming hip-hop artist That Boy A.B. Please contact me with any information you can provide.

    Thank you.

    Nick Saponaro
    856.889.6536
    Twitter: @NSapProductions
    That Boy A.B. Twitter: @ThatBoya_b

  • Mo says:

    Hi-
    Just thought I’d say that as someone who may be bi (and has not told her parents), has body issues, and bipolar, I love your songs! From this day forth, whenever I want to cut or do something worse, I will listen to your song “body love” even if it has nothing to do with what I’m feeling because I need positive music in my life! I doubt anyone will ever read this lol but I thought I’d say I admire celebrities who actually fight for goodness! When I was in second grade, I had an eating disorder. Now, I lift weights, run cross country, and eat healthy. I am 5’2”, 150 pounds. But I’m lean, and all-around healthy. My doctor critsizes me. But you know what? NO MORE skipping meals before an appointment! No more putting up with immature stereotypes about bipolar people attacking people when I have not even done that once!

    I believe that putting a good word out into the world will come back to you. Again, probably no one in the entire world will ever read this, but it’s worth a shot! I was raised with one very important philosophy: always say thank you…..so….thanks! 🙂

  • debbie forrest says:

    My sister has bipolar and I think it is great to say hey I have this but what about the other sad side to this. How do you know the right meds to be on and stay on. At this moment she is on medicaid and the crap her doctor has her on is not right for her she is out of control. Is she taking them? She won’t let us in because she wants to lie to her doctor about her drinking. Money is an issue I ask her to go on Dr. Phil or something so we can get some help. I do not know how she has lived this long. She is 55. She has been down on drugs, raped etc.
    Again how do I really help her?????I fell literally sick because I love her and feel helpless.

  • Hey Mary. I am in a non-prophet called Unspoken Voices. It is to stop the violence. Stop the abuse. And let everyone have a voice. I know by your music and by your bio that you have gone through many difficult times. I think you would be an amazing person to be a part of this. You are so strong and we need all the help we can get. It just started up and I know to so many people you being a part of it will mean the world to me. The founder of this is a good friend of mine named Kilo. If you please email me back I will pass it on to her. Thank you for listening.
    love,
    Dani

  • Brianna S. says:

    I doubt anyone will ever reply to this but here it goes anyway: Mary reminds me every day that a size 4 and a size 16 are no different. I often compare myself to my friends, who are mostly slender women with “perfect” bodies. Whenever I look at pictures or videos of Mary I often feel sad that I do not look like her and I am not as pretty. However, then I remember that I am me, not her (or anyone else) and I try to boost my self-confidence. As I start my junior year of university tomorrow, I am going to try, for the first time since elementary school when I was relentlessly bullied for my weight, that I am ME and I am beautiful and no one is “secretly judging me”. Even if people are judging me, I need to stop worrying about it and flaunt my stuff because when I see that Mary Lambert is having a good time, being comfortable in her own skin…I feel like I can, too. I feel like I can wear whatever I want without worrying if it’s “only for skinny girls” or if it will cover up my tummy. Anyways, hopefully this will reach someone. Have a wonderful day <3

  • I just read your article on your clothing dilemma and how it made you so unhappy about the clothing industry not catering to plus sizes. My now retired mom owned a custom plus size female clothing shop in West Downtown Los Angeles. She had lots of black customers that were mostly plus sized women and had a loyal following. I recently saw a trend toward stores that cater to plus sized women and realize that it is a very much needed product to cater to not only outfits but related accessories to match the outfits. Please consider finding custom tailors that can create an outfit just for your needs. As for me I really love plus size women. There is more to love and care about!
    Art.

  • Wendy says:

    Hi Mary, My partner and I are excited about seeing you in Hartford CT. We are huge fans and it is her birthday. We attempted to get into the meet and greet, but with great disappointment we were unable to do so. Thought it might be the perfect bday give; plus it would make me super-cool:) Since we didn’t, I was wondering if I could get her a signed photo. Thank you so very much!! We are huge fans….

  • Mandy says:

    I think Mary Lambert is so inspiring. to have a past like that is devastating but look what she became.out of that a very talented woman.who believes in same sex marriage and equality for all people! I.love her a lot!

  • Courtney says:

    Uhhhhh not entirely sure if this is how to post a comment but MARY LAMBERT IS A GODDESS ON EARTH we need more gorgeous women like her to sing and spread body positivity. I love how she approaches it as not just for plus-sized girls, but for everyone. It makes me feel so happy to not be pinned against them for once. LOVE FOR ALL GIRLS WOO WOO

  • Adaijah Moore says:

    Hey, I’m a 7th grader im gay or whatever you wanna call it. But your song “She keeps me warm” is my favorite song form you. Me and my girlfriend listen to that song everyday. We dance around to it, you are inpirational.
    Love you

  • Angela says:

    I’m so glad I found you. Secrets came on by chance one night while I was at work, and I immediately asked my coworker who the artist was because I’ve yet to hear such a positive song come from another woman with bipolar disorder. I was filled with such a good feeling hearing the song; since I started having manic episodes I was taught to conceal and hide that I was bipolar- that I was less of a person. I went home and immediately looked you up and started listening to your songs. I cried and smiled. The world can be so terrible, but you have to persevere and be happy in any way you can. You can still have these awful, terrible things happen and still find a way to be open and happy. I know it seems like this message doesn’t really have a point, but I’m so glad I found you. Thank you.

  • Emily says:

    Truly inspiring. I wrote about her as part of my project on Bipolar Disorder. My colorguard spun to “Secrets” this past year. Thank you for your music.

  • DBSA says:

    Good Morning, Ms. Lambert,
    My name is Mary, and I am the Programs and Communications Manager for the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance, a national non-profit created by and for individuals living with mood disorders. This year, DBSA is celebrating it’s 30th anniversary of providing hope, help, support, and inspiration. In celebration, we are holding an educational event in the Chicagoland area September 25-27, 2015. We would love to discuss the possibility of you being a part of it, as you so beautifully represent the peer experience in your music. Please email to discuss this opportunity. We would love for our community to have the opportunity to hear your powerful music and connect with another successful peer. Thank you for your consideration!

  • Elizabeth says:

    I would give anything to meet Mary. Her song love your body really helped me and every time I hear it I cry and than smile bc I know I’m not the only one. I can’t stop listening to her music And I just want to say thank you Mary love u

  • Emmanuel John Patras says:

    hello How can get Ms Mary an autographed photo for my world collection.I am from India,kindly prayer for my family.
    thanks
    Emmanuel John Patras
    India

  • John Andrews says:

    I did not know this story, Lambert has truly became an inspiration to me after reading this article! It’s rare to see someone put so much of themselves into a song!