Hi, I’m Mary.
I like to sing and write songs and poems and dance (badly).
I’m probably most known for being the fat crying lady who sang and wrote “Same Love”, but that’s incredibly reductive.
I also cry at Trader Joe’s and the Post Office and in the shower.
I talk about things that are uncomfortable in my work because shame likes to hide in things that are uncomfortable,
and I believe that shame is the thief of joy.
I do lots of different things because I’m clinically insane and can’t sit still.
If you want to see what I’m up to and follow the progress of my album, join me on my Patreon!
If you want a 1:1 coaching session to talk about body positivity, songwriting, or poetry, book here!
If you want merchandise, like my sad ass book of poetry or my sad ass albums, shop here!
If you want to book me for an event, reach out to my team!
If you want access to my weight neutral spreadsheet, click here!
I truly, honestly, love you. I’m grateful you’re alive.
About 15 years ago, I discovered how the radical acceptance of loving my body actually allowed me to take care of myself in a wholly loving way, and the work to find body nirvana has been deeply profound. I decided to take detailed notes along my journey, and put those notes and exercises into a self-paced workshop called “Everybody is a Babe”. I’m so passionate about this work that I do one-on-one coaching to help others navigate internalized body shame. Doing this work saved my life and has granted me a freedom I did not know was possible and it makes me so happy to help others make peace with their bodies.
I am currently starring in the new Netflix animated musical Arlo the Alligator Boy and the new series I ❤️️ Arlo! Check it out on Netflix!
Grief Creature, my most recent full length album is the most important piece of music I’ve ever made. I produced & composed it myself and I cried a lot while I made it. The album centers around trauma and mental illness.
You’re welcome?? Hope you enjoy crying to the soundtrack of my trauma??
I released a poetry collection, called Shame is an Ocean I Swim Across a few years ago.
All the poems that I perform on Grief Creature that are also in this book.
These poems can be painful to read.
You can order it here.
And of course I have a patreon! Come follow along with my album making process, join me for writing workshops, and hang out for special events!
xoxoxoxoxo forever amen,
Mary